世界上任何东西都有好的一面和坏的一面,pros and cons. 潼潼最近很into这个,经常问那坏处是什么呢? 有的时候,我真得想不出吃饭的坏处来。
可是,怎么可能没有坏处呢? 小朋友说,一定有的,任何事情都有它的坏处。
上K的时候,老师说D什么都好,好学生一枚,就是有时候做project动作太慢,时间到了他还没做完。 但是老师接着说,Do not view this as a bad thing! 因为他要求完美,所以花的时间比别人长。 从好的上面看,他肯花很多的功夫做到最好,这是好事情!
对啊,不都说要挖掘孩子的闪光点吗? perfectionism也是有好处的。
可是,小朋友不是说了吗,任何事情都有它的坏处。 果然,开学才两个月,老师把小同学的第一封告状信寄来了:
perfectionism从好处看是做事认真,从坏处看是吹毛求疵, 老师说:Today he got upset because he kept writing the same word and it didn't look neat enough according to him. He is fairly hard on himself.
而且小同学严于律己,却并不能宽于待人,老师接着说 He also got upset when we were looking at this blown up pumpkin thing in front of Mrs. L door. He was mad that people were too close and not everyone could see. He was correct that people should have moved, but he got so into it that he wasn't using kind words to get them to move.
我收到信,想起以前别的妈妈曾经说小朋友有正义感,会帮别的小女生出头说话,这,再一次,说明任何事情都有两面性。
小朋友是个很有原则的人,对自己对别人都是一样。 对这一点,我这个经常很没有原则的人有的时候很服气,有的时候很丧气。 可是人,是要学会变通的,这个怎么才能让这个一根筋的小朋友明白?
谢谢惦记我的你
10 years ago